Haters don't hate you, they hate themselves

If you’re putting yourself out there—whether it’s writing online, starting a business, or chasing a big goal—you’re going to encounter this.

Some people just have to throw shade. Maybe it’s a troll in your comments. Or a coworker with unsolicited “advice.” Or even your mom, gently discouraging you from “taking that risk.”

You’re in the right place. Welcome to inspired idiots.

You’re here because you’re doing something different—and that makes people uncomfortable.

Here’s the truth I’ve learned: criticism almost always says more about them than it does about you.

And here’s the proof.👇

Does this person seem like someone you’d want to trade lives with?

Probably not—because he sounds miserable.

So, let’s talk about how to spot these moments for what they are—and stop letting them weigh you down.

WHAT WE’RE TALKING ABOUT

People who are happy and fulfilled in their lives don't spend their energy tearing others down.

Think about it: if you’re having a great day—maybe you hit a personal best at the gym, landed a client, or finally figured out how to work your air fryer—are you hopping online to post hateful comments?

Of course not. You’re too busy living your life.

Next time someone tries to belittle you, remember this: it’s about them—not you.

You’re doing something they wish they could do but aren’t. And instead of working on themselves, they project their frustration onto you.

STRATEGY: “Happy People Don’t Do That” Check-In

Here’s how I stop caring what other people think:

1. Pause and ask yourself:
   “Would someone who’s happy and fulfilled say or do this?”
   Almost always, the answer is no.

2. Flip the script:
   When I feel irritated or triggered by someone else, I ask myself:
   “Why does this bother me? What’s the real issue here?”

Nine times out of ten, it’s not about them—it’s about me.

THINK ABOUT IT LIKE THIS

When we don’t care about something, it’s because we don’t believe it affects us.

I don’t care what my second cousin’s neighbor is doing today because it has zero impact on me.

But if something upsets you? That’s probably because you do think it affects you. It’s revealing something about the way you feel about yourself.

Now, you have a choice:

• Be a troll like the guy in my screenshot, or

• Get curious about why it’s bothering you.

When you do this inner work, the things that once upset you start to feel a lot less personal.

WHY THIS WORKS

Negativity is often just a mirror.

When someone criticizes you, it’s a reflection of what’s unresolved in them.

And when you reframe negativity this way, you take back control.

Instead of carrying someone else’s baggage, you use the moment to focus on your own growth.

Remember: when someone talks negatively about you behind your back, they’re exactly where they belong—behind you. Keep moving forward.

TAKEAWAY

The next time someone throws hate your way, ask yourself:

1. Do I value their opinion?

2. Do they have a life I want?

If the answer is no, their judgment doesn’t belong in your world.

Don’t let someone else’s negativity slow you down—that’s their weight to carry.

You’re building something real—let them stay stuck while you keep growing.

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PS: Reply back and tell me how you’ve handled haters in the past!
What’s worked for you?

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